Ideas for your wedding ceremony…
The ceremony should start by welcoming guests, especially those who have travelled, and mention the significance of the wedding location. It may then retrace a little of the couple’s story, including favourite memories, the moment they knew they had met the person they were destined for, reflections on their life together, and their thoughts on each other and on marriage itself. Marriage is a choice, not a requirement in today’s society – so I will ask you what it means to marry your partner, and what you promise to them, and weave this into your ceremony.
Many people include a reading, or a poem, or a short speech or prayer by a friend or family member during their ceremony. You may even wish to include a ritual such as hand-fasting with a ribbon, or lighting a candle. You may like to ask one or both of your parents, or a relative or friend to give the bride away – both walking down the aisle and formally during the ceremony.
It is compulsory to say formal vows such as ‘I call upon the people here present, to witness that I, John Smith, take you, Mary Jones, to be my lawful wedded wife’. However, many people choose to add personalised vows expressing their feelings for their partner. I can draft your vows or help you to write your own. Although optional, saying ‘I do’ is a nice traditional element, along with exchanging of rings, that can accompany the required vows.
Music adds so much atmosphere to a ceremony. Having a live musician is a wonderful backdrop to walking down the aisle, signing the register, and closing the ceremony. Well-chosen songs played from an iPod on my speakers is a simple way to incorporate music and save a few dollars.